I'll probably receive downvotes for this, but whatever, I'm going to take a different position here.

I think you have an ugly personality. I think your "attractiveness" is utterly useless once someone realizes what you wrote. I wouldn't talk to you if I hear about you from other people.

Sounds harsh, no? It is.

You state your "attractiveness" causes you to act the way you are, creates you're being, when in reality, you're not letting your attractiveness create the way you are, but rather destroy your life. The destruction is causing your attitude. Causing you to act and be the things you mentioned in your post. Attractive -> Destruction -> Poor attitude.

You're overseeing the flow of effects. You need to change it.

STOP.

Take a second.

You're 25, went from a "nerdy" girl to an "attractive" girl and you're upset that your attractiveness is creating unwanted attention, slowly destroying your personality leading to the way you act.

Is that how you want to live? In anger? In disgust?

You and I both know many people are not blessed with genetics. Some grow up to forever be "ugly" while others get the good gene pool of "attractiveness". So, your blessed to have something many people want, but you're throwing it away. Making it useless.

You may be physically attractive, but your situation won't resolve it self until you completely change the way you act upon it. Strangulate the destruction. Stop it.

Cut it out of the equation. Take the attention with a grain of salt. Be somewhat appreciative but not overly. You need to realize the way you're treating yourself and others will close you off forever.