I don’t know what to say. I’ve been with a guy I was really attractive to. And because no one ever complimented him much outside of the relationship, and because he was insecure. Despite my effort of telling him how nice he looked. It was never enough.

He compared me to other women. He’s cheated to feel better about himself. He’s constantly disrespected me when putting out how he wished for such validation. We ended. But it left a lot of scars. Many.

There’s nothing wrong with wanting to be attractive and wanting others to see you that way. As long as it’s not at the expense of others; especially when that other appreciates and could even destroy her own esteem. It’s unfair. Break up with your girlfriend if this troubles you so much; because the pain caused resentment and it made me feel very small.

That and the validation you’re seeking doesn’t really get you anywhere. There’s a lot of attractive people who can’t trust people because that’s all they see. It’s way better to aim for how you want to look and maintain yourself. Good luck man