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How does a narcissist feel when they’ve been rejected multiple times after love bombing and going on dates?

Detailed story: I met a narcissist last month who love bombed me immediately after our first date but knew from the beginning that I would not have sex until I was in a relationship. He knew I did not believe the love bombing things he said and would express frustration (“i hate it when you don’t think you are that special to me” / “I am obsessed with you, what more do you want me to do? / “I’m rejecting girls for you” and sent screenshots of the rejection / even went as far to call me by his last name and tell me he ❤️me to which I told him to stop and slow down).

Last time I saw the narcissist, he could not keep his hands and eyes off of me. Tried so many times to get me to have sex with him and sleep over his place over the course of the 7 hours I spent with him. While I did let him explore my body and give him a taste of what sex with me would be like, i never let him have sex/penetration with me even though he was naked in front of me and insisting I “sit on it” . He never gave up…would stop for a bit and then continue and go on and on about how tight and beautiful I am and acted like he did not want me to leave. Eventually I did leave because I was getting turned off with him trying to persuade me (“the sex would make us more connected”). This same narcissist also got upset when I rejected to hold his hold on our first date (I just met him!).

So I’m just wondering…did I cause any narcissistic injury to him? I had boundaries and did not believe the love bombing. I had my suspicions about him and later found out he is a narcissistic abuser with 2 failed engagements and 1 failed marriage under his belt.

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