I am not a narcissist but I just wanted to add that people are constantly adjusting their selves for the environment they are in. This is how society can function. For example, I’m a social worker and when I am listening to a client, I might think I have a great story to share, but it’s not about me, it’s about them, so I adjust myself to act professionally, it’s a relationship that is about me being there for them to support and assist them. Say I’m with my boss, and they say something I really disagree with, I’m going to consider my reaction, I don’t want to get on the bosses bad side after all. To go out in the world and not adjust your behaviour for the social setting you are in would be chaos. If you are aware you are selfish at times, or you are annoyed by people talking ietc, you have learnt this won’t be accepted socially, so you choose a behaviour that will be acceptable; because you have been socialised.