I was trying to find an equivalent scenario so that Asian women could perhaps understand how unsupported Asian men can feel.

My bad, I think I misunderstood what you were trying to say. I interpreted your comments as saying Asian men are vocally supportive of Asian women issues, so why aren't Asian women doing the same for them? But this is the kind of private support/public silence I think pervades identity politics, because people often just don't feel like it's their place to speak out on an experience that is not theirs, and it's always going to be a battle to figure out what kind of support is appropriate without overshadowing the people who rightfully should be spearheading their own liberation. Personally, yes, I'd love to hear more men be vocal in their support of women's issues and feminism, but

But in terms of public figures, whether it's real or fictional Asian women, it's more like 90% in favor of White men and Asian women.

I don't know the exact figures on that, but I'm inclined to agree with you on that general trend. I'm not sure real Asian women who are public figures ought to be criticized for their choices in relationships without more background, because, again, it assumes a lack of agency on her part, as if Asian women can't think for themselves and recognize fetishism/Orientalism. There's an article posted recently on this sub about Rhea Suh, and she's pictured with her white husband and their biracial daughter - yes, she contributes to the trend, but I hesitate to lump her in with fictional Asian female characters who get with white male ones in movies/TV/books, because that is a relationship written with an agenda, often by a white person. She's clearly a very intelligent, highly accomplished woman, and it's frankly offensive for people to just zero in on her partner and have that one thing occlude everything else about her, especially when public female figures are routinely reduced to one aspect of themselves like who they're dating or what they're wearing.

It's a tricky balance because we're asking Asian guys to give up certain male privileges that they never felt that they had in the first place. I hope you can see why some Asian guys would get very upset when, after a lifetime of being emasculated, they seem to finally have reached a tipping point where they can hope to just be level with other guys, only to be told by some Asian women that they're being a bunch of entitled pigs for just wanting to be "normal."

Sure, I understand why that's frustrating, and I say that as someone who