I can't even understand why I hate her so much. I think it's because I assume deep down she knows she is bothering me and it doesn't affect her. I wish I could call her out on her deliberate cornering of me. I finally talked to her today after talking to my therapist first who did agree with me that it wasn't normal behavior. She sits by my desk for THREE HOURS after her work finishes. And not on special occasions. Every day. I just don't like her, she gives me the creeps. We can't get along with everybody, I've heard. I understand that we should ideally be more enlightened people and not treat others how we wouldn't like to be treated- ie being called a loser. And I am totally a loser to many people, even myself at times, and there are people who are losers to me in that they simply haven't "won" my appreciation. Therefore they lose. My dislike for her is by no means meant as a comparison of rank between her and myself. I'd rather not even discuss such things as it's not my style. Subconsciously, I do believe I must rank myself above her in some way, most likely along the lines of "less annoying and needy", which I'll admit as to not appear pretentious or having something to hide... Anyway our dialogue throughout the day normally consists of her asking petty questions like how are you, followed by how is your morning going so far, followed by how was your lunch, did you get a haircut, what are you making for dinner tonight, have you seen (insert name here) until she runs out of questions and ends up just blurting out things she feels like saying out loud even if I don't reply. I told her as cordially as I could, standing close and speaking at low volume, that I don't like to socialize at work and I'm uncomfortable with people being at my desk just to talk. She replied, "I'm not at your desk, I'm sitting in a chair." I said, "I don't mean right now, I mean in general." She said, "ok I'm sorry. I won't do it anymore." I said "thanks." That was it. What do you think of my way to handle the situation guys?