That’s exactly my point though! This fictitious person doesn’t matter, not harming yourself and being true to who you are is what’s important.

I don’t have to re-do the quote, but, I wanted to make the exact same point you are making in a way that might be heard by someone who would relate to the original quote. I wanted to make a tiny breakthrough in the cultural pressure of the women who read that quote and worry about how their entire lives set them up to be with a person that may or may not exist instead of just loving themselves.

And I’m not sure how the way I said that view is horrific or trying to control women or judging them for what they do.