It's not just this subreddit. It's a large majority of women dominated communities.

Take this for example. Not the subreddit itself, but the video.

Kayla is a TikToker who has a lot of claims as to how she is a victim. I will not comment on the validity of those claims, but I will say she's been using her platform for over a year now (?) To BE the victim rather than to move forward in life. And women look up to her as a role model!

We should absolutely be a safe haven for women in their healing processes as victims, I am one myself. But, we should also actively be recognizing when advice is not healthy and call it out, like how this post we are commenting on is doing.