We don't. In the morning I'd rather get up and start with the day, while she prefers to sleep with me, and after getting up this means just sleeping more. I then get blamed that I never stay in bed when she wants me to, first lost opportunity. I'm doing some interesting work throughout the day so I don't have much time to think about her, I'm quite busy. Not enough affectionate texts throughout the day is making me lose a second opportunity. After work I spend a few hours on high level sports (though not professional) every day, so by the time I get home I'm exhausted. Third lost opportunity. I'd rather eat a good meal, talk about the day, discuss things we did and go to bed with her. But by this time she's not tired at all, and she'll either lay awake for hours next to me or just reject going to bed and do some work. Fourth lost opportunity. Sometimes we watch a movie, which could be replaced by some together time, but most evenings is just me going to bed and sleeping within a few minutes while she's trying to get some affection.

I wish I could give her more of my love, because I intensely love this woman, but there's just too much other stuff going on in my life that I'd love to pour my attention into. She states (I wouldn't use the word complain) almost on a weekly basis that I don't give her enough affection, and I've caught her occasionally with a toy, but this only makes me feel inadequate, only pushing me further towards the parts of my life where I do feel appreciated.

In the early days of our relationship we'd spend days in bed, but this somehow doesn't really feel like time well spent right now, to me. I know this sounds bad, but it really isn't. I just think a more intellectual approach is more fascinating than just living out of lust. She tends to disagree.