I supported my disabled wife through ten years of expensive medical treatment and surgeries for her chronic illness. I would take her to the ER 2-3 nights a week every week for months, on and off over a ten year period, sometimes carrying her in bodily as she thrashed around in pain, occasionally ambulances etc. This was a trend that continued for years through several surgeries trying to get to the problems stemming from endometriosis. Laser ablative stuff, full hysterectomy + appendectomy, gall bladder removal, several invasive exploratory surgeries equaling ten in all. A couple of FMLA, borrowing against my pension etc to pay for all this and cling to my career in the meantime.

After a suicide attempt in which she slashed her wrists I visited her in the state mandated mental health clinic until she got out. We stayed married.

When she started running out of painkillers three quarter of the way through the month and buying booze behind my back after that I found her cheating on me with someone she met in an MMO.

I divorced her and she got half my retirement which she spent on painkillers in the year we were apart. She could not work nor drive since she was a teenager.

We got back together and I tried to make it work for another two years with her living with me as my ex and her professing that she wanted to get back together, and even make things work to the point of remarriage but then she had someone else fly down behind my back while she was staying with her mother. After 12 years I finally threw her out.

So basically a combination of chronic illness, mixing painkillers and alcohol, and massive breach of trust. She's likely to die around 45 like her aunt with the same affliction did and I won't even be able to go to her funeral because I'd have something a bit more forceful than words to share with the guy.