I feel like the list goes on..some things I'd rather not share..I don't know, growing up I was really immature...and troubled..but it's not an excuse. I feel like I've been obsessive with relationships in my teens, and manipulative...but perhaps not fully conscious of what I'm doing. Or at least not fully conscious of the pain it can cause someone to be emotionally abusive. More recently, I hit my dad a few years ago. :S He may have deserved to feel some kind of pain imo, just to make him realize how he hurts others through his actions, but punching him wasn't right. He called the cops on me, and I somehow ended up in the mental hospital because some care workers I agreed to talk to were associated with the psychiatrist that gave me the diagnosis of ocd in the first place.. There are a bunch of other things, but I'd rather not say. Some people might say I'm slightly antisocial based on this behavior, and I won't deny that I can be under the wrong conditions. That said, I have plenty of remorse that will last me a hopefully boring and less harmful lifetime.

I guess all I can say about infidelity is that I've been cheated on a number of times and can say I don't wish pain on any of them. They're human and I still hope they've found happiness. I'm actually quite surprised when people act like cheaters are irredeemable arseholes..I get being angry, but holding a grudge for years just seems unhealthy..and ignores the fact that people can grow over time.. Being cheated on did leave me bitter a bit, for sure, but I've also learned a realistic approach of valuing the connection between people, but not holding it as the end all thing I need. I don't really expect people to be built for monogamy, the idea has only been around for so long.

I'm not sure if you're talking about a past action, or if you're simply thinking. Either way I think you should be able to forgive yourself and move on, just like those articles say about people forgiving themselves for not picking up their dog's crap.