It’s a healthy reaction, when the stress in your life reduces and any bullying to you reduces you will feel better. It’s going to stress you out more to be told by people that it’s an unhealthy reaction. The reason that this seems to run in families is because a lot of families tolerate a lot of bullying/abuse and or perhaps some families are in poverty or experiencing racism over many generations. In terms of bullying if that’s what one generation of the family learns that the bullies get to freely bully and get away with it then other generations will learn the same thing and most likely there will be a bully and a victim in the next generation.

Also any environment that is very mental “health” informed and mental illness informed is going to be one where bullying is tolerated and unpunished because if bullying were punished no one would be getting these extreme stress reactions. Also if people were taking a strong stand on classism or racism people would not be under extreme stress.

I’ve had to set boundaries