I don't have any legal advice for you.

I have a very, very similar story to yours. I haven't fully processed it myself and that was almost two years ago now, so all I can offer you is this: it's absolutely not your fault. It's not. No matter how you try to dissect the situation, she struggles with a mental illness and unfortunately you have to pay the price. It can be incredibly disheartening trying to separate your loved one from their damaging actions. Think of yourself first.

Please stay resilient. It gets easier to deal with each passing day. How you carry yourself may change for the rest of your life, and that's okay. It has to be okay, otherwise you fall into a pit of agony that you may not be able to crawl yourself out of.

Right now, this may be the worst thing that has ever happened to you, or maybe you've gone through worse. Regardless, feel how you feel, and look forward to a brighter future. It will be okay, but only if you let it.