Back when I was single, at least in my area, people seem to know the score: that dating isn't exclusive until it is. I'd usually bring it up a couple of dates in just to make sure, since I'm not looking for monogamy. And now that I'm in a relationship, I tell my bf about all the dates I go on, and I tell my dates about my bf. There's hardly ever any weirdness. Maybe some questions about how me and bf met, or what the people I'm dating are like, but that's it.
I was chatting to Mike before heading out for dinner with Alan, when Mike asked me if I was hanging out with friends or if I was going on a date.
After one date that's none of his goddamn business. Seriously. I would have probably told him that and faded. I'm not interested in any kind of relationship where I have to account for my whereabouts every time I leave the house. Or with someone that insecure -- if you feel the need to ask this question, it's probably because you're not going to like the answer.
Mike then proceed to ask me:
- If I'd seen them before
- To tell him how my date with Alan went, later on
- If I am "always like that" on my first dates (not sure what Mike meant; we had drinks, dinner, and then sat around chatting in a park and kissed a few times)
Any answer other than "good luck" or "have fun," and you're swimming in dangerous waters. After one date he doesn't have a right to know what my dates with other people are like. He's not my confidant, he is literally a stranger. If it was a more casual, "how is dating going for you, have you been meeting people that you like?" maybe, but "are you always like that" is a whole lot of judgement. I would have dropped him here for sure.
Again, if I am "like that" with every guy (seriously wtf?)
Fuck off, guy.
Why did I choose Alan over him? What did Alan have that he didn't have?
I can understand asking if he did anything wrong in case there was something glaring, but trying to compare himself to someone he's never met in order to live up to the standards of someone he's only met twice is ridiculous.
I'm willing to share most things, but not after one date, and not if the person asking is going to use it as cannon fodder for their insecurities.