if you do have a LTR, make sure she knows you still prioritize her emotionally, even if you drag your dick through whichever HB8+'s you feel like.

It would be better to call this pLTR(primaryLTR= you have a main/primary chick but you fuck others on the side too), instead of LTR, which usually means monoLTR.

You are right, you failed to demonstrate the relationship hierarchy in this situation. You write that you consider her your primary, but she is only looking at your actions (you treat her the same as the other chick).

I asked her what she considered us.

This is classic beta tell. You should never be the one initiating "The talk."

Told her to decide right away whether she wants to be my main girl, and if so to get that through her head. She needed to consider my her boyfriend, and of course I’d consider her my girlfriend. I told her yes I’m still going to be with other girls, but she is the only one that gets to be more than a wet hole. If she wasn’t cool with that, this is over. She was ecstatic; I was blown away by her reaction but didn’t let it show. According to her, that’s all she wanted. To maintain the emotional connection. And so long as that was strong, she didn’t care that much about my “other sluts”

You went full overt communication. ==> https://therationalmale.com/category/communication/