I do agree with you, I know for a fact that I will have zero problems on who my future kids date/ marry and I be backing them up regardless of how my family feels.
I was in India till High school, I did my engineering in New Zealand and I am currently working in the US and I quite like the culture here.
But something I have noticed is that when it comes to threads that involve interracial couples facing issues because of their families. I always see a lot of "If they love you, they should not care about what the family thinks" or "They are being terrible for not wanting to break family ties" etc. I dont always agree with this. As I mentioned earlier Indian families are tight knit and as much as I hate my family for being so controlling and invasive. They genuinely care for you and personally, I would never want to loose them.
But anyway to give you an example of what the aftermath of interracial couples dating in India I have a couple of anecdotes for you. Please be aware that these might be EXTREME cases, but it still happens.
1) Location : India, My Uncle-in-law? (Mom's Brother's wife's Brother)
He got engaged to a white girl from Europe and brought her to India for the wedding Not many people turned up for the wedding.His parents were super supportive, and payed for everything.
They eventually divorced because no one invited his family to anything and treated her like shit.
This was particularly brutal for his mother because she comes from an extended family with 10+ brothers and sisters. She is an old woman who loves talking with her sisters and their children and was very social and they constantly made fun of him/ his parents. He is still un married because no Indian wants to marry him because of the divorce.
2) Location USA: Friend of my mother killed her self, because her daughter married a white person in America. Her "family" called her a shitty mother for raising a whore and other colorful things.
You have no idea how frustrating this is for someone to deal with. I have had a couple of white girlfriends. I REALLY liked this one girl and I wanted to spend a long time with her but I knew that I couldn't. Not because I didn't want to but because I knew how this would go down and I did not want to put my family through that.
The day I called things off with my ex-gf. She asked me why I was doing that. I just had no words.
Its easy to judge a situation and call somoene a xenophobe or bigoted but you never really understand the number of people that are actually affected or how it is handled in other parts of the world.
But on the brighter side. Im quite sure that this bullshit will die out with my parent's generation :D, something to look forward to atleast.
I know that in India right now, the number of arranged marriages are decreasing and more people are marrying people they love!