My last relationship was with a pathological liar that struggled with anxiety (was on medication). She ended things by overlapping (or probably straight up cheating. If I had to bet money I would say cheated on me) with a girl (she's bisexual). Pretty sure the new girl never knew about me and might not even know she's into guys.

ANYWAY, the reason why I'm commenting is that I knew from the beginning that she had those issues and still decided to commit to her. It wasn't the lies that bothered me, but it was the fact that someone I cared about was making the same mistakes again. She had literally cheated/overlapped on her previous three relationships which all ended in those people cutting off contact with her. Did she disrespect me? Yes. Did it hurt? Yes. Would I take her back? Only if she fully owned what she did as being completely selfish and proved to me that she had come completely clean with her new girl and that she was ending things with the hope of me taking her back. If things don't work out with the new chick and she came crawling back? Yeah no. I know my worth and its not that.

But the most frustrating part was seeing someone that you love NOT grow and continue to self-sabotage herself. I really hope that this thing with her new girl works out and that she grows. The point I'm trying to make is that loving someone isn't a feeling, but it's a choice. People that end up cheating or lying are just following their feelings. You have a choice to come clean with her and see if she's still willing to commit back. If you love someone it shouldn't be conditional. We are human and we make mistakes. But at the same time, you have to be able to look out for yourself. You ghosting her is just another form of your own selfishness.