Don't worry too much about it JD_W98:

quite a few of these signs apply to me as well!

But I have absolutely ZERO interest in changing who I am at this point in my life.

My girlfriend loves me. I love her. Her cats like me. I like me! I love my life.

If someone wants me in their life as a friend, then they have to accept me for who I am, including my weaknesses. In fact, I even like some of my weaknesses: they make me more human.

Some say to continue to grow as a person, you have to CONSTANTLY continue to try and change yourself, and fight your weaknesses each and every day, and progress steadily, through a rigid set of goals.

All that, just so that you don't show any signs of weakness, and try to convince a couple of extra people (judgemental people at that!) to like you, because you are inhumanely perfect.

Seriously that seems like an exhausting and extremely uncomfortable to live life!

They say we sometimes make our own hell on Earth. Battling to change ourselves for fear of showing even the slightest weakness, in order to impress judgemental bitches and jerks and try to meet their standards of inhuman perfection is pretty close to hell, in my perspective.

So ya, you can judge, just because sometimes:

• I find it awkward to stare into the eyes of someone I just met

• or on a particular day I just don't feel like being the one to make the decision of where we should eat dinner (and that must mean I am not a real man somehow!?)

• or sometimes in new social situations I might experience a touch of anxiety, and find that I interact better after drinking a couple of glasses of wine (and that of course must mean I have zero confidence in other matters, and also that I'm an alcoholic!)

• or just because getting into a debate about whether or not Game of Thrones is a good TV show is of absolutely no interest to me (and that must mean I don't stand up for my beliefs, as if a pop culture TV show is a matter of prime interest to my inner soul!?)

So... if you do decide to judge me, categorize me, and reduce me to a simplified stereotype of "lack of confidence", based on a couple of signs of weakness (when all humans have moments of weakness),

then quite simply: I say: "f--k you!"

I don't think I would really want you in my life anyways! You'll probably make my life misery anyways, as nothing I'll ever do or achieve will seem good enough to you.