This is such a subjective topic, yet so compelling.
Everyone has experienced the horror of showing someone your heart.
Anyways here's my two cents.
I've probably done it all, (not bragging or anything, I'm horrible with women) MSN hook up, Nettby(norwegian facebook,before facebook took off) hook ups, hooking up with friends, hooking up with girls from school, hooking up with strangers and thats both while drunk and out on town, and sober during the day. Generally, I've always had success talking with women. Like i can hold a conversation interessting for several hours. In some cases, I've had the pleasure of bringing company home, and other lucky cases, I've had the pleasure of kissing and macking. However, 10/10 times, shit goes south pretty soon. And i got to be honest, it bothered me my hole life. Females just up and left everytime. I thought it was my appartment (so i became a neatfreak), thought it was hygiene (showered way to often), my sex skills (ended up with my first move during bedtime stories to be going down on the lady, i was so desperate for approval.) To add on to the sex stuff, i seriously picked up strangers drunk out my mind, (probably theirs aswell) and proceeded to eat cat until i coughed hairs, and my tounge was sore. I systematically went through everything, but nothing i did, changed the fact that females only wanted to either flirt, or have a one night stand. And usually the main compliment i receive from pretty much anyone i meet, is that I'm a funny likeable social and interessting dude.
Anyways, what i obviously fell hardest on, was the sex. I had to be terrible in bed. I pounded myself sore, and except for the first maybe 2 times i had sex, i never once ejaculated. It got frustrating. So, i just said to myself, fuck women.
I basically ignored everyone. Just had fun with my dudes, and myself.
And one faithful day, i met a lady who was just super cool. She straight up did everything. She flirted, she grabbed me in inapropriate places, and she drew every line.
After 4 - 5 weeks of dating, and chatting, we went home to her. She took full control (despite her being really uncomfortable naked, and having low self esteem), she just told me everything she wanted, and it was great, and has been great ever since.
And also, i fckin fell in love! Which is great!
Anyways, ladies who knows what they want are the greatest! Shoutout to not being confusing, and misleading!
Be upfront, and most guys if not every guy, will do stuff with you!
Ladies are the coolest people on earth, and when you are upfront and ballsy, you're all just so friggin awesome!
Thanks for reading. :)