This is both incredulous and sad. For the past 5 months I have been, for some brainless reason, involved with a jw guy via online, texting, skyping, phone calls. (Still talking to him although I feel the days are definitely numbered). Let me preface my story by saying that I am a Christian, but one that leans towards pentecostalism, since childhood and I am now 40 blah-blah years old. While I live a far from spotless life, I still very much hold to my beliefs. In the beginning, he NEVER told me anything about being a jw, only that he had a number of hugely successful businesses that were all tied to a "Society" as he called it. He was always claiming to be traveling worldwide somewhere, limos waiting, etc...a completely different picture of himself in the first month than who he has revealed himself to be now. One major revelation being an extremely active and "incredibly spiritual" jw. He told me he was babtized 20 years ago, but that fluctuates quite a bit depending on the conversation. His social media profile provided no photo other than a Maserati that he claimed was his. Finally after much pleading, (since he already saw my pic) he sent me 2. Turns out both of those pics were not of him at all, but from a magazine. What the....an incredibly spiritual jw?... LIE?? Say it isnt so lol. Shortly thereafter he sends me a pic, and lo and behold its him 25 years ago. He tells me "I look exactly the same just a little older". FINALLY I get a semi-blurred profile pic of him.....umm...not exactly the same. Oh, and did I mention that early on in that first month he told me he was divorced, (which he is in fact) with a son? Only what he told me initially was his son was 10. Even sent me pics of the kid. Only those pics were taken 12 years ago. During the time I was unaware that he was actually 22, he would send me elaborate texts of spending his "on" weekends with him doing all these kiddie fun things, and how sad he was to drop him off back at his ex's-even going so far as to say he was having disputes with her during us talking. None of it was true. When he finally admitted the truth, I wanted an explanation. All he could come up with was, "siggghhh...look...everytime I want to date someone and they find out Im a jw, they run." ummmm....What does that have to do with lying about your sons age??? Or that his son left the organization to live his own life? (and by the way, how is something that's referred to as an "organization" considered a religion anyway? Can someone explain that to me? I was always under the impression from my learnings that it should be all about cultivating a relationship with the Lord, not a label you wear or any particular dogma you adhere to). Long story short, over the months, he's been quick and firm about sharing his beliefs, and is always encouraging me to do research myself. But of course I quickly found out my NIV Bible wasnt "relevant" to "the truth". The research meaning me spending hours on jw.org. oooookayyyyyy. I was told we are adhering to the "courting system" of which its understood there is no physical contact allowed. (although I found that irrelevant to people who are a million miles away geographically, right?) And the jealousy is insane. Which I believe stems from his own struggles and insecurities. He was trying to get me to quit the Latin band I'm in, quit working with my BD (Business Development) Associate, for the sole fact that he happened to be a male, and even told me to disassociate myself with a female friend I told him about because she was a "bad influence and association". All this from clear across the country. The way I understand Christianity is to be loving and compassionate of the individual even if you dont agree with your spiritual stance, and he has told me innumerable times how much he loves me, but Im not sure he really understands what love is. And frankly, how can one TRULY love someone from such a distance and having never met them. And here's the big clincher....WHY...if he's so "spiritual" would he opt to love and consider marrying a woman who has told him flat out she will never be a JW???? I would love to hear some frank replies