your partner should not make you feel exhausted

Yes I recognized that and so thats why I wrote the post. I'm not sure if this is my perception being flawed. Should I be less responsive to his criticism and listen when I want to because I can do that.

It sounds like he is trying to form you rather than being supportive of you. He may be logical, but it sounds as though he is quite critical as well.

I did bring it up once saying that I felt like I was being judged. He said that wasn't the case at all and he was very mopey and apologetic saying he felt like an asshole for making me feel that way. So I don't believe he is trying to be controlling or critical but it is coming off that way.

I know there are relationships to walk away from and I am tryibg to gauge whether this is one of them. I think we get along fantastically and that the feelings I am getting aren't his intent. But how do I bring up and discuss how to go about it without making him or I feel like victims is more of the question I need an answer to.