When it comes to “being unattractive”, it all boils down to how you see yourself. I’ve struggled with this issue for many years now and I’ll share to you what I’ve learned over the years.
Start taking care of yourself. I used to have really bad skin, overweight, had really messy hair, had literally no eyebrows. I didn’t really change everything all at once, but I started using skincare and it made a HUGE difference on my skin. I learned a lot from YTubers like Dr. Dray, Cassandra Bankson, Ecowell, Lab Muffin Beauty Science, etc. When my skin cleared up, I started to lose weight, learn makeup, figure out what hairstyle suits me, etc. and all these helped me learn how to love myself. I don’t really know how to explain it, but imagine working hard to create a product & it took many years to accomplish. While you know that your product might not be the “best” product in the world, you still easily wouldn’t trade it for any other product out there because you spent a lot of time & effort on that product and you saw results.
Change your habits. I believe that this is the key to weight loss but also it will help you feel better when you change your bad habits. When I was overweight, I used to sleep really late & wake up at 3pm, had really unhealthy eating habits and would eat sweets 90% of the time. I still eat sweets from time to time but I portion it out. Anything is okay to eat as long as you know how to portion it well.
Look for beauty/style inspiration from people who have similar features to you. Not all trends look good on everyone and every country has different beauty standards. This usually depends on what people in that country normally have like double eyelids, asian/western features etc. It also helps to apply makeup, change your hairstyle, or dress according to your face shape & body shape. You can’t change your genes but you can certainly work around it. I usually watch beauty videos from Dear Peachie where she explains a lot about different kinds of face shape and what would suit you the best.
If there’s something you don’t like about yourself, change it or work around it but make sure that it’s actually something you want for yourself and not what others want for you. This goes for everything else in your life, including how you treat others. I used to be a very toxic friend because I used to project my insecurities onto others and while I’m not a perfect person, I would say that I have changed that. Doing things that hurt other people definitely takes a toll on your mental health & how you see yourself. Sometimes it also makes you “hate” yourself over it. It’s best to be aware of these things, accept that you’re doing it, and actually do something about it.
I know beauty is subjective and is beyond how you look like on the outside, but it’s more about how you take care of yourself and building confidence & self-love by doing that. Hope this helps!