I have an easier time with this sort of thing now that I no longer see it as trivial and realise that my tendency to do so comes from my difficulty dealing with problems at that level. As long as I get plenty of alone time, I generally can pull my head out of my arse to focus on what they're saying. I think of it as kind of a challenge. Most people operate on that level and if my escaping to the meta-realms had any original point it was surely to drag usable wisdom to the ground level. You just have to give yourself a mental bitch-slap and use what you know to help, or don't. The very least you can do is be gracious.

I find myself saying this kind if thing often,

"Yeah that sucks. Would you like some advice or do you just need to vent?"

or if they know me well,

"You know I'm not good with this sort of thing. Can you get to the point?"

You're not superior because you can think of things that other people can't. If you look at it, the fact that other people can deal with things you can't is evidence to the contrary. We're just different. I always find myself thinking of Jean Luc Picard and the way he sees the necessity of communication. He needs a lot of alone time, sure, and he can get pretty grumpy when it's interrupted or someone won't get to the point, but imagine if he was some duck captain who viewed himself as superior to everyone and their problems as trivial and tedious. Or Gandalf. If Gandalf was an immature INTJ he'd rather tear his own face off than visit The Shire and deal with hobbits.

Shakespeare said, in Hamlet, "There are more things in heaven and earth than are dreamt of in your philosophy."

I used to, upon hearing this quote, imagine myself saying it to some small-minded person, hinting at the intellectual riches available to me that they could perhaps share in if only they would open their minds to the possibility. Now I look at it differently, as if I were the target. Once upon a time I dared to think that my wavelength was the only real one, and certainly the most important. Now I know we're all parts if the orchestra and when we embrace that, we can make music.

Just, as a general rule, be gracious and don't neglect yourself. If you need alone time, get it.