Hey guys.... Do I have a right to be upset? (btw im 22) So my girlfriend (20) of 3 years went to get a massage recently at the local massage place. She told me she was going to go and I was okay with it, no big deal. After her massage was over, we talked very briefly about it and it wasn't brought up again till just yesterday because I was telling her about some back pain Ive been having. Now this is the part where it gets interesting.... She told me that when she got a massage it was from a dude. Which is STILL okay for me, even though it doesn't put me in a state where i feel comfortable but thats okay, because that's what trusting your partner is about. She then told me that the guy gave her a "full body" massage and even joked about it with me. I began to become visibly upset, but trying to keep my cool I asked her if she was serious and she said yes. She told me the guy even massaged her ass and thighs and stuff. Like WTF. I am OKAY with her getting a massage, and if possible to opt getting one from a girl. If it's from another male AND its a professional massage I guess I am still okay with it, although not very comfortable... But I really feel like a major boundary was overstepped right there, because I feel like no guy, no matter who he is, should touch my girl like that in those places. I understand that I might be immature to react like this, but it really upset me. She texted me later and was really upset with me telling me that she had already told me about this post-massage when we had "briefly talked about it" but she really didn'tt, because if she had I would NOT have been as upset or shocked when she told me about it yesterday. Im having a lot of feelings right now, but overall Im very hurt. I wouldn't put my self in a situation like that where some woman (on any level of professionalism) would oil me up and basically grope me like that, and I really expected my partner to do the same. To her, this is NO big deal, and she is mad at me for getting mad and being upset about this. Today she insulted me over the phone and called me names and stuff and said she didn't do anything wrong. All the while, I still respected her and told her I need my space, because I need to let my anger simmer down before having a conversation with her... Do i have the right to be upset? I feel like she doesn't care/respect my feelings enough for her to know that what happened is NOT okay and for her to be angry with me because im angry? I need to hear a lot of opinons on this, I appreciate all sides. Im expecting to get a lot of people calling me a jealous control freak and stuff but Im really not. Just try to put yourselves in my shoes. Thanks for taking the time to read this!