Not especially normal.

People have reasons for being discreet. If he's comfortable with himself, that's all that's needed for me to be happy around him.

I have great FF sessions with an African preacher. Do I care if he's out? No. Is he happy and well adjusted in his religion and with the facets of his life? He has kids with an ex-wife, a bf, and harder play with a few friends like me.

He's pretty convinced God loves him. I'm sure if there's a god (I couldn't say if there is) then there's a fair chance that this god does love him. He seems busy and contented. Do all these things need to be integrated with each other in public sight? I doubt it.

"The test of a first-rate intelligence is the ability to hold two opposed ideas in mind at the same time and still retain the ability to function." F. Scott Fitzgerald