Me and my husband recently closed to have a baby. I’m pretty sure my meta thinks it was about insecurities. The reality is we just wanted to be super attached with each other only to celebrate the baby and it was relatively easy for my husband to end the year and a half long relationship. He said even though he really cared about his partner, he’s happier focusing on the family. It’s simpler. We’re having an absolute blast. I think it is very very important in poly relationships not to make assumptions and blame the meta. To be honest people’s feelings change quickly in times of life change. One family illness, or new scheduling stressor, or new baby or whatever and people might want to focus on each other. That’s not even not being good at poly. That’s just having occasional changes of heart on the lifestyle that works for you. Now HOW the break up happens and what remains of the friendship after is a very different story…