I know. Plus recovering from a delivery really takes a long time so ideally I'd like to take as much of the load off her as I can. Unfortunately the physical reality of things tends to be different. Only she can feed the baby so thats an area I can't do anything about.

I'm lucky to still have my job during covid. But the work hours I have to put in mean there's only so much I can do do for her on weekdays. I still try to take as many breaks as I can between meetings.

During this time we're both discovering our limits. I'm personally finding it impossible to help her with two demanding/hyperactive kids and then have the mental energy to get back to detailed technical work and complex financial spreadsheets. I already know my performance review is going to suffer this quarter. As the provider its not an easy choice between helping her and bringing home less money.