Early 20’s individuals usually care about appearance more, but I personally think queer culture is less “traditional” in what it considers attractive. But yes, i’m not a pretty girl, i’m not a hot dyke. I’m an average looking not-too-feminine, not-too,masculine woman. I have never been approached or flirted with based on solely my looks. Every partner i’ve had got attracted to my personality first and I always get compliments on how good i am in what I do or how “smart i am, sometimes on how nicely i clean up, sometimes on how my body is toning up (i work out), but never on how beautiful/handsome i personally look. I came to terms with it because I can’t change my face, I don’t want to drastically change my body, and no body can have it all.