I would like to suggest that… “thoughtful gifts” are my sister-in-laws love language, too. She expects thoughtful gifts for her anniversary, Christmas, valentines, birthdays… She’s a wonderful, extremely thoughtful person. However this gift thing - my mom considers this her only flaw. Our whole family has been desperately trying to help my brother find her “thoughtful” gifts (within her parameters) for years.. we just lost of a loved one and this is the last thing we need. It was the most stressful part of Christmas for us. He’s a busy man and this causes him stress multiple times a year. He takes very good care of her. My partner and I don’t give each other gifts because it is challenging and often, gift giving is just hard & someone is left disappointed. I’m not trying to be critical, but I would consider why gifts are so important to you.