Wait are you me? But no, we cut off my husbands side of the family years ago, and even tried one more time before giving up for good.
They didn’t like me and so they were hurting my children emotionally on purpose. My husband had had enough and he didn’t even see how nasty their ways were until me and our children.
Oddly the birthday things were our last straw. My daughter was turning 1 and we invited them and the 4 cousins. They decided to book their Hawaii trip on that very weekend and pretended we never told them about it. Then for my sons 4th birthday, they decided to plan their camping trip on that weekend (was only couple hrs away) and even took all the cousins camping and tried to take my kids step sister too! The worst part about them not even trying to drive to see him, they did t even call.
And this in law, she gave each of the other kids their own birthdays so they all got 2 birthdays and couldn’t be bothered to come to ours.
When my son was a baby we had to stay with them for a little bit to get on our feet, the in law father would say goodbye to him when he went to work, one day he did t and my son cried. When he came back he said “aw what’s a matter you sad I didn’t say goodbye to you” completely intentional. ( I ended up going to my mothers house which was supposed to be a weekend but when I was supposed to go back I had 2 seizures from the stress that day and my mum kept me and my son with her for months until we found a new place to live. Before he was born and I was pregnant the father in law was driving me to my new place and it was far away, he smoked every couple hours in the truck on the way there, I covered my face with a shirt.
There’s more but I just am done sharing it. Anyway
Cut them off.
It was the best thing we ever did. We just stopped texting, busing, ect. They didn’t either.
Idk about the situation with his dad being the source of income but your husband needs a new job, or at this point, social assistance.
Your guys health is not worth that stress. Give some extra hugs to your girl.
Good luck mama.