Lord, of course I'm not going to do anything to this kid, as I've already said. In fact I included the word obviously because, well, that should be obvious. I looked for them on the internet because I wanted to be able to speak with them. If I were actually going to do something, I don't think I'd have been here looking for advice on the best way to handle this.

As I've also already said, I'm aware he is very likely just a dumb kid trying to be hurtful. Frankly my worry is more for my stepdaughter, but you've gotta be out of your mind if you think a parent isn't going to be angry about someone saying they're going to kill your child. And I am well aware there are two sides to every story. Regardless, would you not feel the need to address it? If you think teenagers aren't capable of doing terrible things you must not be paying attention.

Also worth noting is that I specifically said I was going to sleep on it and wait until today to go about dealing with it as I wanted to be in a calmer frame of mind. I suspect a genuinely violent person genuinely intending to go out and harm a whole freaking family wouldn't be likely to do that. I can't help but feel your comment was made in very bad faith. I personally don't know any parent that wouldn't have had a similarly big reaction to hearing that.

Take a step back and recognize when someone is turning to a place not only for sound advice so they make a good choice, but to vent some of the anger their feeling in an environment that won't impact the situation. Tends to help one calm down and better be able to speak calmly and intelligently to those relevant to handling the problem. I'm sure you're aware of these things. In which case it feels you were just stirring the pot. Ironic given you mention my stepdaughter needing to stay out of drama.