It all depends. I'm an INFJ and I cannot do casual flings/casual sex. I have to have a connection with someone on a deep level. This rule for me has gotten more flexible as I've matured, though. I used to need the spark of love to start a relationship, but now I'm more interested in friendship and shared values.

For example, I'm not yet fully over my ex, but I've found someone I have a connection with and we are dating to see our compatibility, as friends or more. In the past, I would have had to already be in nearly in love with someone to do such a thing. It's actually rather refreshing to be talking to someone who I don't have that initial intensity with. I'm not in a whirlwind, my head in on straight. I see them for them and me for me. I am really a very different person than I was 6 months ago.

My point is a bit of a hard lesson I've had to learn about myself and others. When you break up, you cannot place expectations on another person. Maybe they will leave forever. Maybe the will find someone else. Maybe they'll be your best friend. You just can't say.

I want to gently remind you that this is a breakup, in all of it's awful glory. With the choice to break up, you are saving yourselves from pain and opening up an opportunity for a better relationship in your future. It is an opportunity, however, and not a guarantee. I've made the mistake of mixing up the two in the past, and I've gotten burned badly.

My point is, hope for the best but be aware of the worst. Do you get what I'm saying?