Hi brazoril,

I apologize if I accidentally pushed any of your buttons, or offended you somehow. I do appreciate your response to the trust comment; I can see how previous failed communications could create an aversion to verbal communication in general.

I was simply worried that if she's not an INFJ, our INFJ opinions might mislead him and potentially cause more problems than solutions. I feel that that is a reasonable concern. Especially since he said "who I believe to be an INFJ" instead of "is an INFJ", thus admitting uncertainty.

There is not enough information for you to be giving this kind of advice.

I agree that this reddit post contains very little information and thus could be interpreted incorrectly by those giving advice. That applies to any and all advice; not just my suggestion. But in the title, he's asking for insight, so I'm giving mine. The INFJ subreddit is a wonderfully open place, and I think that if advice is given with good intent, it's rarely misplaced. It's advice, after all :) Not a mandate.

As an INTJ, BESMENTDweller is probably very self-driven and isn't going to take my advice unless he himself has evaluated it to be logical. He's not gullible or influencible. I'm generalizing based on INTJ's, so I could be wrong, but I'm just not very worried about my suggestion misleading him. Also, re-evaluation and change are not the same thing. I think encouraging someone to re-evaluate is almost always a great idea, regardless of the context. Because it doesn't mean "change what you're doing", it means "rethink the reasoning behind what you're doing". The latter is great, because if you come to a different conclusion, then you're glad you re-evaluated, and if you come to the same conclusion, then at least you understand your reasoning a little bit better than before :) I can see no harm in it, unless the subject of re-evaluation is something dangerous.

I'm sorry that you feel so attacked by your family. I can see how that would be a very toxic situation. Being an INFJ is not easy, especially around insensitive people. I hope that this is a problem that will become less intense over time.