3. Irrational fears of the metal deathtrap on wheels.

Irrational fears of the metal deathtrap on wheels.

My biological " father " kept me from getting my drivers license as well. His goal was to use that as a means to force me to agree to a forced marriage. I didn't get my license until late 2014. I was and am currently twenty-nine years old. I've been told by my mother on several occasions that if I drove out of state I'd get into a wreak. I also was told I'd be killed if I ever drove on the ice by my mother. In January of this year I went to Maryland to see some friends I haven't seen in a few years. When I arrived I DIDN'T get into a wreak. On the way back the roads started to get slick / icy from frozen rain. I arrived home safely WITHOUT getting into a wreak. Getting into an accident is always a risk when you drive. However you can't let that fear get to you. Including when I got my permit to now I've been driving almost a full year ( give or take two months ). The first time I drove a car I got car sick and almost puked. My mother did everything in her power to dissuade from driving because it was " dangerous ". My biological " father " wanted to force me into marriage. All so that he could ensure that he had " his " white grand-children ( he's a RACIST I'm not ). One of my parents did this to control my sex-life the other to prevent me from living my life. I'll give you the same advice that I myself follow every day. You CAN'T let your fear get the best of you. Because if you do your " family " will win. You've got to live your own life make your own choices and take your own risks. Life is risky that includes but is not limited to driving. If you don't take some amount of risk you won't live your life. Instead you'll be letting fear, manipulation, and control from your " family " dictate what kind of life you live. Now ask yourself this question.

Do you really want to live that kind of life ?

I eventually got over my car sickness ( at least when I drive ). For this reason alone I believe you can do this. It's not about driving but about you moving on with your life and living it.

I hope I was helpful in some shape or form. Best of luck.

You have my sympathies. Hugs offered.

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