I know what you’re saying but I’ve seen it happen with her. She’ll be one way then her therapist will tell her something and she’ll start acting like someone with this problem. I don’t think she thinks of herself as herself anymore, I think she thinks of herself as what she’s been told she is by someone who knows what they’re talking about. I definitely understand that I’ve grown up with a better home life than she has, and it does make it hard to understand how she feels about things. I wish I could understand. I also feel like I’ve got the common problem us men have about trying to fix everything opposed to just listening. Idk I’m really trying.