This man is a long miserable pipe dream. What's his game plan for getting geographically closer to you? What's his real plan for leaving his wife? Are you all supposed to perennially date long-distance? Does he even care how much he's destroying your heart?

For your sanity, lose him. He's lied to you about his marital situation. He already tries to deny your feelings about the situation. He can't even give you the basic validation regarding your expressed concerns and then has the audacity to use your history (that you trusted him with) against you?

Even if he is serious about leaving his wife, he's obviously not able to deliver on it. Broken promises are broken promises. Maybe he didn't mean to, but who cares? Your pain is real. Your heart is real. Your feelings and concerns are real. You are a person and your time has value.

It's apparent he can't make good on his end of the bargain to make a relationship with you viable and he's obviously not in a place where he can prioritize your feelings. You're hurting enough and he doesn't deserve any more of your heart.