3. Long Distance is Harmful to her future? Should I end it? [M/F/23]

Long Distance is Harmful to her future? Should I end it? [M/F/23]

First off, thanks for the response.

Sorry I left that out but yeah we talked about it, she said she's not really sure but leaning towards not uprooting her life. We were going to have her come out for a few weeks (her flight is in 2 days) and see what she thinks.

But in reality, I guess I'm feeling guilty because: 1. It was my decision to cut my losses and move before wasting my savings 2. It's my decision to not move back now that things are looking better financially 3. Now I want her to move her life to be near me or it's obvious the relationship will be over since she doesn't want to go through another multi-year long distance relationship (she did it once before, didn't end well and she felt she wasted a lot of time).

If I were in her shoes, it doesn't make sense why I'd move across country for someone (even though I love them) that really doesn't feel like I can count on being a stable bet considering he's already moved cross country twice, what's stopping him from doing it again? Am I just supposed to follow?

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