It breaks mu heart the out of the three long term relationships I've had, each partner has had an addiction to pron that was the ultimate demise of our relationship. It's no wonder I have such deeply rooted body image issues.

Listen, I don't have a problem with porn generally speaking. But if a guy has an addiction to it, why would they bring an innocent person into that? It's the same as a drug addiction or alcoholism. Why drag someone you (generic you) supposedly love, with you?

You have no idea how devastated I am over this. Especially of my most recent breakup. There are so many lies and it is killing me. I am beginning to think that all men are porn and sex addicts. Which makes me never want to try to have a relationship ever again.

I am trying to understand something that I don't know if I will ever be able to comprehend. Maybe it's because I don't have an addiction... I would never choose an addiction over a person who loves me and accepts me. I would want to do everything in my power to cherish them and grow with them.

I don't know how I am going to get over this. I sob every day. I don't trust any one any more. I am afraid of men looking at me when I am out socially. One guy even asked me if he could give me a compliment, recently and my response was, "Sure as long as you don't sexualize me." I felt so ashamed of myself. He was actually a really nice guy who just wanted to give give me a compliment. He even asked permission for crying out loud!

I don't enjoy being a woman any more. I mostly stay home and when I go out, I make sure to not dress provocatively. But it doesn't matter. because my last two exes both could look at pictures of any women and get off on that.

I'm sorry for this comment. It is coming from a place of enormous trauma and humiliation for being blind and going through this three frikken times.

I hope you heal. I hope you can help other men heal too. I hope you can help yourselves so that women can feel safe for a change.

If I had a machine that could let you feel what I feel right now, and trust me, I am crying hard, you would not be able to endure it. That's how much it hurts. I can endure it because I am used to it. I want so much to get un used to it. But I am not sure that is ever going to happen.

I think with my last ex, the affect of that on me has been the most devastating. And he will never man up and tell me the truth. So I will never be able to trust or forgive him ever again until then. Which crushes me.