My wife and I had an odd situation. When we first started dating at 18 we would fool around some, but never actually had sex. After about a year she started feeling guilty about everything and she wanted to stop doing things all together because of religious reasons. I was fine with that so we didn't do anything else until we got married.

I thought I had a decent idea of what our sex life would be like once we got married since we were sexually active for a year. Well being together with someone for 5 additional years while not having sex isn't an easy thing to do. I had to repress all of my sexual desires/urges so much that over the years I just quit thinking about it. I'll admit there really wasn't all that much romantic stuff in out relationship, but we still loved each other and knew we wanted to spend the rest of our lives together so we stuck it out.

We finally got married and sex was kind of awkward at first. It really shouldn't have been since I've been with her for 6 years at this point and am more comfortable with her than anybody else. We were both way out of practice too. 5 years without any real sexual contact is going to be a blow to whatever confidence you had left. Things started looking a little better the more we did it though. It is, however, nothing like when we first started dating so I really didn't have a clue what I'd be getting into. We don't have sex as often as I'd like, but that's due to a number of different reasons (my health being one of them). We've only been married almost a year at this point so we still have a long time to work on things, but right now I don't think sex is the number one thing on either of our minds.

So I've done the whole no sex before marriage thing and I can't really say that I recommend it. I think a healthy sex life throughout our entire relationship would've benefitted us more than a 5 year hiatus from sex.