The guy packs my lunches, and left work early, so I'd have a fresh meal the moment I got home. He seriously is a personal cheerleader, and adores my field too. It's how we get along - I couldn't imagine now having a partner who I couldn't speak Chinese with. He isn't fluent, never took a class, but is great with languages. It's so awesome.

We decide everything together. We make cost benefit excel sheets. He is excited about seeing China. I show him what I'm interested in, and we talk about it even if it's some crazy far off idea. He never belittles me or minds it.

But, I think I feel like I'm taking advantage cause I don't know other couples like this. People think it's strange my husband packs my bag for me, or say how lucky I am to have someone wanting to do all the stuff I want to do in regard to travel and language.

I also don't know if I would really be doing this without my husband's high salary. I mean we met when he couldn't get a job selling vaccumes door to door. I helped him get back into college after he failed out of Stanford in the second year of our relationship. I made him mozzarella sticks when he studied late. Like, I feel we did do this together vs me showing up one day when he was doing well. He also was with me when I was on food stamps and legally homeless on a friend's couch. But, I still feel this guilt. :(