As someone who is ex-baptist christian in a particularly bible thumping area, I haven't even the guts to fully admit as much to my family. I know they would be crushed, and it would crush me to see them so hurt and lost. This thought often comes to me, so your post hit me rather hard. I imagine your husband must have been struggling just as well with these thoughts, particularly as I know some Mormon branches are incredibly against leaving the church as well just as much with his faith, belief, and everything else in life to be at this point. I don't doubt it probably took him a good deal of searching to come to this place and he will most likely continue to search in the future.

While I admit I don't know much, one thing I do know is that every faith and belief needs to be something you find for yourself. Something you truly discover and struggle hard with, I think that's the only way anyone can be fulfilled in what they believe in. While I hope deeply you two are able to remain strong together despite conflicting or different ideas, do know he will not change as a person. He will always be him and you will always be you. I think that's too important, as I find faith likes to paint us so much by the brushes of particular religions that we often forget that; people are people and that won't change anytime soon. People grow and challenge themselves and discover new things, it's what we're here for! Hopefully you two will be able to discover a plethora of new questions and battle through insurmountable ideas controversial to what you're accustomed to and be better for it on the other end. I know it can seem terrifying now, but change is not always a bad thing, and I think you'll both find that exploring your beliefs, who and what you are, will be better for you in the long run and something you can look back on and be proud about.

Hope the best for you both!