So, as a full time student who spends a good deal of time at home and doesn't work full time, I do the lion's share of household chores (mostly thanks to joys of procrastination). Also, I tend to have more "weeks off" per year in general than my husband does.

All that said...despite my penchant for cleanliness and organization...I do sometimes feel unappreciated. I know I have more time. I know he works hard. I also know I work hard at different times than he does, and we don't always see the fruits of each others' labors directly.

The very best thing my husband can do for me and that I can do for him is to dedicate time...lazy time, together time, personal time, where neither of us works on anything. Not work, not classwork, not housekeeping, nothing. We sit on the couch together and watch movies and play footsie, or go out to dinner, or make ridiculous amounts of grilled cheese or watch ridiculous amounts of Parks & Rec.

It's all about appreciation and relaxation. We can't all always be active and working all the time, and much less so in a happy relationship.

You are both exhausted, but in different ways. It makes it hard to see it from the other's perspective, but that is exactly what you must do. Make it a point to do so. Or else you're both going to end up resenting each other, when the real issue is simply gratitude for what the other does.