OP -

I've had to put this on here, I did originally put it on /r/relationships, but they advised me to put it here instead, although I'm not 100% sure there is a sexual element to this or not.

Throwaway because I do not want this associated with my regular account, which I use for hobbies that are NOT pee related.

Really, if anyone has seen anything like this before, I realise that I'm probably going to have to break up with this guy over this, but deep down I'm kind of looking for reasons to stick it out. I probably need sense knocked into me.

I met a guy online a few months ago, and I really like him. We have a lot in common and he was fine with taking things slowly (I've had a few bad experiences and I've actually not dated in a few years).

About 2 weeks ago, I was at his place, he'd made me dinner and we were going to watch a film. I'd never been to his place before so this was an exciting step for us, and I was really looking forward to it.

Anyway, at one point I needed the loo, so I excused myself and went. Whilst I was in there I noticed a terrible smell. Really strong pee. It was so strong I could smell it from the hallway at the top of the stairs. At first I wondered if it was his cat, but it didn't smell like cat wee... It smelt like human wee.

I had a look around to find the source of the smell, and realised it was coming from a basket in the corner of the bathroom, it was made of fabric, and the smell had seeped into said fabric. It was disgusting. I peed at lightning speed and got out of there quick. I spent the rest of that night thinking about it, the smell was THAT bad. It was extra weird because the rest of his home is really nice, he makes good money and he owns his own place, he's got great taste and he keeps everything really neat and clean. I get that bathrooms don't always smell amazing, but this was so disgusting.

So, that was weird, but like I said, I really like this guy, and its been so long, AND I'm not exactly getting any younger, I want to have kids and get married and this is probably my last go at that, so I just figured he was a gross batchelor and had a gross old basket.

Then, a few nights ago, he invited me over again. I hadn't forgotten about the gross smell, but yeah, I like him, so I went over.

One thing led to another and we had sex, and I ended up staying the night. I would just like to say that the sex was really good, probably the best I've had in a long time (although that's not hard, its been a LONG TIME for me)

After we'd had sex he put his boxers back on (this is important) and went to the loo. I heard the shower go and he came back naked. This of course seemed totally normal, lots of people like to shower before they go to bed.

But then, later on that night, he got up to go to the loo again, I noticed he put a fresh pair of boxers on, and had a shower, again, and came back naked.

The next morning, he did it again, fresh pair of boxer shorts, shower, back naked.

I went to the loo myself after the third shower and noticed that the piss smell was SO strong. Out of morbid curiosity I opened the basket and inside were loads of pairs of boxer shorts, all soaking wet and stinking of piss. I almost threw up, I'm not joking.

I went back to the bed and stewed whilst he slept next to me, but I had to ask. I was thinking all sorts, mostly to be honest, I was thinking he had some sort of medical problem. I had to ask though, it was too weird and I know me, I would have gone over and over this in my head until I asked him, so I just got it over with.

What he told me is without a doubt the weirdest thing I've ever heard in my life, and I think its a deal breaker. I don't think I can stay with a guy who does this.

He told me that ever since he was a little boy, he likes to pee sitting down, with his underpants on, and pee through them onto the toilet. He told me he then takes them off, puts them into the basket and gets in the shower. He told me this without a HINT of embarrassment, he said it like it was some quirky thing he does. He was even smiling when he said it, I just stared open mouthed at him. He says he washes his underpants every day and he just doesn't see a problem with it. He said 'Yeah, its a bit odd, but its just comfortable to me'. He even compared it to adults who still suck their thumb.

I'm sorry but... no. That's gross right? But he said it so normally, as though it wasn't anything that bad, and like I was being odd for being so grossed out by it. I left about an hour after that saying I had an appointment, he tried to arrange another date and I told him to call me, but now he keeps calling me and I don't know what to do. I've not answered the phone, I keep sending it to voicemail.

In all other ways, this guy is perfect, but this is so gross! I have to block his number right? What if this is my last chance? I'm so conflicted.

TL;DR - New boyfriend likes to pee his pants and keeps them in a gross basket in his bathroom

EDIT -

I just finished talking to him on the phone, I read all of the responses here and the ones I got before my relationships thread was taken down. I asked him more questions about it, the other morning I just froze and didn't really say much other than 'Oh, ok'.

He said he realised that he'd weirded me out, and that he does get that its a really odd thing to do, and that yeah, it has ended relationships he's had in the past.

I told him that the smell really bothered me, and I suggested (like a lot of you had said) that he gets into the shower with the boxers on and gives them a rinse to help that. I also asked if he'd thought about getting a plastic basket to keep them in instead and lining that with maybe a plastic bag. He seemed pretty pleased when I said those things and said that he'd be fine doing that if it made me more comfortable.

To be honest, I'd be way more comfortable if he didn't do this at all, but he told me it wasn't all the time, he did it a lot when he was at home, but he didn't HAVE to do it. I asked wtf it was that made him like it so much and he said he just had always enjoyed how it felt on his legs when it was warm, and that the fabric of the boxers helped with that feeling (?!). He said he showers after because it starts to sting if he leaves it, also because of the smell, but that just makes me wonder because whilst HE doesn't smell, his bathroom stinks so he must be aware of that?

Seeing as he seemed ok with my suggestions about the smell, and he also promised that he wouldn't do it whilst I was staying over, I've decided to stick it out for now. I know that my post made me sound desperate, but I've met a lot of shitty guys, and honestly, I've never had a connection like this with anyone before, I think I do owe it to myself to at least give him a chance.