Well, I do think after being with someone for so long that there will be lingering feelings -- at least for the person you fell in love with, whether that person still exists or not. Wanting to be with that person is a whole different animal.

From the sounds of things, you're doing everything right. You guys are taking things slow and enjoying each other's company. You already know him as a friend, and being able to be friends with someone you're seeing is a must.

I understand why you're concerned and cautious. He loved you 14 years ago, but the circumstances were different. Now the timing seems to work out perfect. Maybe he hasn't had a lot of time to heal, but sometimes people are already over it before the divorce. I'd say to just keep doing what you're doing and just take the time to get to know each other again. I hope you