There were several red flags that I just missed in the moment. She was a good friend, who claimed to have been raped a few weeks before our incident. During this time I was always there for her and helped her overcome her "fear" of men.. ( that's what she claimed)
It was her birthday homeparty. It was fairly late and most people already left. I wanted to call an Uber for me but she offered that I could sleep on her couch.
I knew she was attracted to me, and since I didn't want do get into an awkward situation (since I was in a happy relationship) where I had to turn her down, I refused but she insisted. Because it was super late and I was kinda drunk she convinced me, but I insisted I'd sleep on the couch, and a other (female) friend of hers would sleep in her double bed. I asked her friend to please let me sleep on the couch to avoid having to turn down her advances. She agreed.
Went to the toiled before going to sleep on the couch while she prepared the couch.when I came Back she claimed the couch broke and I had to sleep in her bed and that the other friend left.
I made perfectly clear again that in not gonna start anything in any way with her. She claimed she understands an accepts that, and that she's the last person to start anything without consent, but after about 2 minutes lying there she started to cuddle with me and Jake other advances. I told her to stop and that my girlfriend would not be happy about that. She said she completely understands and that she doesn't want to cross any boundaries.
I believed her and feel asleep only to Wake up to her starting to finger herself with my hand.
I pushed her away forcefully and asked her very intesely what the fuck she was doing, and if she didn't get the fucking message the first two times.
She started to cry and said she's sorry but I started it, and maybe I was asleep that's why I don't remember and she thought that I changed my mind. That was fucking bullshit because I felt her taking my hand.
And me, the moron I am/was, felt kind of sorry for her, because of everything that happened to her, and said that everything is alright and that we can talk about it tomorrow. But just because I felt very uncomfortable I left the room and slept on the living room couch. Once again I woke up because she was completely naked and sat on my face while starting to give me oral.
After a few seconds of pure confusion I kicked/pushed her away so strong that she flew through half the room. I didn't really know what to do/say so I just put on my clothes and left.
Was super confused and really not sure what happened the whole day.
On the evening I got a text message from her where she told me the she felt highly insulted that I rejected her 3 times and that she can't believe I physically pushed her away after the traumatic sexual encounters.
After a lot of drama she tried to convince our common friends that I got physical and abusive because I was angry she wouldn't sleep with me (basically she implied I tried to rape her, but acted like she doesn't want to use that word to be"fair" to me)
To bad our common friends already suspected her first rape story to be fake because it didn't make much sense and nobody believed her after the friend who wanted to sleep there too told everyone that she threw her out because she wanted to sleep with me.