That "all or nothing" mindset is prevalent amongst women, and is actually amongst the characteristics of those believing women who will go to the Hell-fire, as stated in this hadith:

The Prophet (ﷺ) said: "I was shown the Hell-fire and that the majority of its dwellers were women who were ungrateful." It was asked, "Do they disbelieve in Allah?" (or are they ungrateful to Allah?) He replied, "They are ungrateful to their husbands and are ungrateful for the favors and the good (charitable deeds) done to them. If you have always been good (benevolent) to one of them and then she sees something in you (not of her liking), she will say, 'I have never received any good from you."

Good thing you are honest with yourself and realise this shortcoming. May Allah forgive you and the rest of our sisters who do this. Really scary thought to go to Jahannam because of such a demeanour.