So I have a history of pelvic dysfunction. I had a lot of pain. It is/was a very hard thing to overcome, and in a lot of ways, I have had to re-learn what I like and what I don't like. It has been really, really difficult for me. I did have a history of SA which I refuse to consider to be "sexual experiences." But, I'll talk about an experience I had about a year ago, that made me feel real shitty.

I was seeing this guy who JUST would not understand that, because of my pain issues, I did not like to be touched a certain way. Or, I'm just not "there" yet and can't feel comfortable with the thing he was doing. So I tried to guide him a little... just like I have with other partners...

And he TOOK OFFENSE to it.

> Are you *telling* me how to do this?

> I know how to work these things.

These things.

I kept trying to be light about it but, he was offended, rolled over and basically just told me to relax and go to sleep.

This might not sound like the worst thing compared to other stories that I'm sure are in the comments. I haven't scrolled through them yet (I'm sure I'll find stories of people shitting the bed, etc) but this experience really did make me feel like shit for a good while. There's something about PFD that makes you think you won't find a good partner who understands, and he didn't understand, and it just validates that fear.