Im not muslim (I just browse this subreddit a lot) but I am a woman.

It seems you wrote this post because subconsciously you want someone to tell you how you can make this marriage work and get him to stop his behaviour. Youre not going to be able to do that. On top of the financial emotional and physical abuse you've already mentioned, I'm fairly certain he's also implementing religious abuse as I do know from my limited Islamic knowledge that women are allowed to keep whatever money they earn while men are required to spend some of their earnings on their family - in effect, he's done a gender reversal on Islamic teachings in your relationship by demanding that you give him your money and not the other way around. That should be grounds enough to recognise that this is not a healthy Islamic relationship, and I think any Islamic legal or religious figure would agree that this man is completely out of bounds and has violated your rights as a Muslim woman. You need to get out and not be scared, because he is blatantly in the wrong here.