Well I am 22 and I left at 16 so that's 6 years ago since I moved out.

I partially agree with you about my grandmother making her unhappy by probably scolding her when she pees herself but she is almost 80 years old so it's really tough on her too. She tries to teach her as much as she can as a mother figure before she passes because her father is not parenting her at all.The father let's the child do whatever she wants and she refuses to listen to grandmother at all.

I probably jumped to conclusions, I gonna take my time and pass by their place more and will try to bond with her and I hope she will open up to me. It sucks cause I live hours away and i don't have a car, I am also in college and in the middle of exams.