Right now I just started at a University as a Transfer Student, so I’m grounded for at least two years until I can actually physically move closer, hopefully the plan is have a good job out of university, and find a place near her or with her depending on finances most likely. After two years I’m going for a masters and then a Ph.D, and the graduate school I want to attend is near her, so ideally we could live together or at least a shared apartment.

Yeah, doubts for sure are always poping up, I easily get past them, but I just didn’t know how to support her or help in a way that gets rid of some of those doubts.

We are both very happy in the relationship, I Know that it takes hard work to move past these obstacles that we are hitting.

She’s mentioned plenty of things that would send up red flags, and I only see those as misunderstandings because this is her first relationship. She hasn’t cheated, we’re still very much attracted to each other, sex has disappeared due to her confusion about us, think super fat into the future, almost pre mediating a break up, which is probably one reason she’s having these doubts.

I told her I’m willing to compromise and help her in this rough patch. And one if the differences we have is, she sees sex as purely reproductive purposes and enjoys the intimacy, but doesn’t think it’s integral to the relationship. I’m slightly opposite I see sex as a act of bonding, de stressing, showing unconditional love in a different form. She’s logic based, and I more feeling and intuitive.

This is long, I just realized I probably left out important things in the situation.

One last thing I slo think she doesn’t realize how well I’ve treated her, and soon as that’s gone I’m wondering if she’ll realize it? But then in mindset it to late...